Identifying insecurities is the primary task when dealing with psychological healing. Insecurity is considered
as a trivial issue, but its roots arise from trauma responses, while it branches out
to an advanced level of traumatization or hyper-independence. The identifying phase proves to be the toughest, as
our day-to-day behaviour is based on what we failed to differentiate as an insecurity, and chose to accept it
eventually. The preliminary task is to separate the consequences of insecurity from our daily activities.
The next phase is realization and acceptance. Realize the cause for all such actions, and accept that it was
only the past version of you which has allowed such things to happen, making things hard for your present self.
Being accountable is scary. We rarely take responsibility for our actions or commitments, and are used to some
form of escapism. Understanding that escapism is an escape from the situation and not from the issue, proves
to be a key factor in acceptance. Accept harsh realities in the present to avoid harsh consequences in the future.
Then comes the most important phase, the forgiving phase. It takes a lot of strength to forgive someone, and when
it comes to forgiving yourself for being the person you were, it takes unimaginable strength. To heal, one must
forgive. Forgiveness is not easy as it might sound, but remember that it was your past version which fought so hard
to keep you alive today. Your future shows you the destination, but your past gives the reason why your journey
started. The past version worked so hard to minimize their regrets for your sake, and your responsibility is to
minimize it further for your future version.
It is always a better version, but never the best version.
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